Small Groups – 1

COMMUNITY

When God created us, He made us desire to be community with others.  He also did it in such a way that individually we cannot live a fulfilled life unless we are part of a community.  But community means far more than just meeting each other and doing a few things together.  As the following shows, such community needs to be in small groups.

Parity – seeking to achieve an equality of power amongst its members, so that each sees the other as God sees the other;

Proximity – breaking down barriers which prevent physical access to each other, so that socialising and pastoral care can take place naturally;

Multiplicity – seeing each other in a variety of settings on a regular basis during the week, thus getting to know the real person;

Directness – learning to be open with each other in a loving and sensitive way, seeking to help each other grow as a person in all areas of life;

Commonality – identifying shared interests and areas of life and participating in them, thus deepening the friendships between each other;

Continuity – spending quality time with each other over a lengthy period of time, as friendships take time to develop.

KOINONIA

The key to true fellowship (koinonia) is love – see Romans 12:10, 13:8; 1 Thessalonians 4:9; 1 Peter 1:22; 1 John 3:11, 23; 4:7, 11, 12; 2 John 1:5 – as shown in the following ways though meeting together on a regular basis (Acts 2:46; Hebrews 10:25):

“One another” is two words in English, but it’s only one word in Greek:  ἀλλήλων (ah-LAY-loan). It’s used in 100 times in 94 New Testament verses.

47 of those verses give instructions to the church, and 60% of those instructions come from Paul.

When you look at these verses, a few more common themes show up.

Unity. One third of the one-another commands deal with the unity of the church.

  1. Be at peace with one another (Mk 9:50)
  2. Don’t grumble among one another (Jn 6:43)
  3. Be of the same mind with one another (Ro 12:16, 15:5)
  4. Accept one another (Ro 15:7)
  5. Wait for one another before beginning the Eucharist (1 Co 11:33)
  6. Don’t bite, devour, and consume one another—seriously, guys, don’t eat each other(Ga 5:15)
  7. Don’t boastfully challenge or envy one another (Ga 5:26).
  8. Gently, patiently tolerate one another (Ep 4:2)
  9. Be kind, tender-hearted, and forgiving to one another (Ep 4:32)
  10. Bear with and forgive one another (Co 3:13)
  11. Seek good for one another, and don’t repay evil for evil (1 Th 5:15)
  12. Don’t complain against one another (Jas 4:11, 5:9)
  13. Confess sins to one another (Jas 5:16)

Love. One third of them instruct Christians to love one another.

  1. Love one another (Jn 13:34, 15:12, 17; Ro 13:8; 1 Th 3:12, 4:9; 1 Pe 1:22; 1 Jn 3:11, 4:7, 11; 2 Jn 5)
  2. Through love, serve one another (Ga 5:13)
  3. Tolerate one another in love (Ep 4:2)
  4. Greet one another with a kiss of love (1 Pe 5:14)
  5. Be devoted to one another in love (Ro 12:10)

Humility. About 15% stress an attitude of humility and deference among believers.

  1. Give preference to one another in honor (Ro 12:10)
  2. Regard one another as more important than yourselves (Php 2:3)
  3. Serve one another (Ga 5:13)
  4. Wash one another’s feet (Jn 13:14)
  5. Don’t be haughty: be of the same mind (Ro 12:16)
  6. Be subject to one another (Ep 5:21)
  7. Clothe yourselves in humility toward one another (1 Pe 5:5)

Here’s the rest:

  1. Do not judge one another, and don’t put a stumbling block in a brother’s way (Ro 14:13)
  2. Greet one another with a kiss (Ro 16:16; 1 Co 16:20; 2 Co 13:12)
  3. Husbands and wives: don’t deprive one another of physical intimacy (1 Co 7:5)
  4. Bear one another’s burdens (Ga 6:2)
  5. Speak truth to one another (Ep 4:25)
  6. Don’t lie to one another (Co 3:9)
  7. Comfort one another concerning the resurrection (1 Th 4:18)
  8. Encourage and build up one another (1 Th 5:11)
  9. Stimulate one another to love and good deeds (He 10:24)
  10. Pray for one another (Jas 5:16)
  11. Be hospitable to one another (1 Pe 4:9)

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VALUES

For a small group to work, each member needs to agree to group values such as:

Affirmation– it is important to create an atmosphere where group members affirm and encourage one another, build one another up in Christ, and help each grow;

Openness – in the relationships within the group promotes honesty and an ease in sharing feelings, struggles, joys, and hurts.  For that to happen, there has to be time set aside for sharing;

Confidentiality – promising whatever is said in the group will not be shared elsewhere, thus creating a safe environment for everyone to practise honesty and openness;

Accountability – voluntary submission to each other for support, encouragement, and exhortation, thus building up authentic relationships within the group;

Sensitivity – a commitment to being aware of the needs, feelings, backgrounds and current situations of group members, so that appropriate support is given;

Prayer – supporting each other in regular prayer, through such ways as on your own, the prayer chain and when you meet together;

Availability – where members show a desire to want to spend time with the rest of the group, looking forward to their time together, as well as a willingness to share their resources with one another.

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